18 simple New Year’s resolutions for decent men

Guys, we gotta do better in 2018! #1, 7, 8, 10, 15 and 16 are the tops on my list this year.

18 New Year’s Resolutions for Men Ready to Try Harder

The New Year approaches. If you’re asking yourself how to be a better person in the New Year – or what steps you can take that will just make you a happier person – consult this list. It’s not definitive, but it’s a start. I Will Be Present for My Male Friends….

Unsolicited advice for my son

I’m a big fan of Fatherly and really enjoyed their recent piece, Always Ask For A Small Coffee In A Medium Cup And 21 Other Pieces Of Advice For My Sons. Here are a few of my own.

  • Never trust a man with more than zero necklaces
  • You control your destiny
  • However great the design, please don’t get a tattoo on the small of your back
  • To get cookies super soft, throw a piece of (white) bread in the container with them
  • If/when you get engaged, think it through. Everyone will ask “how’d he do it?” You want your partner to have a great story to tell.
  • Avoid head trash. Don’t read/watch garbage that doesn’t feed your intellect, stimulate your imagination or make you more compassionate.
  • Putts break towards natural water.

Head, heart, hands and hustle

The Rural Educator, O.H. Benson of the U.S. Department of Agriculture, outlined what he thought made a good rural leader:

…the leader must be a four-square individual, trained in head, heart, hands, and hustle, the four H’s rather than the three R’s. A leader must have a head trained to think, plan, and reason, both with the child and his environments, and not be a slave to the mere textbook. He must have a heart trained to be true, kind, and sympathetic, with hands trained to be useful, helpful, and skillful, and with the hustle trained to render ready service, to develop health and vitality, and to furnish a suitable background for a noble purpose.

All you need is four: head, heart, hands, and hustle.

Austin Kleon

The cost of holding on

There is an actual cost to holding onto things we should let go of. It can come in the form of anger, frustration, resentment or something even worse.

The faster we learn to drop our emotional dead weight, the more room we create for something better.

We have only so much bandwidth. We have only so much time. We only have so much energy. Do we really want to invest any of our precious resources – financial or otherwise – into something that will return nothing but misery?

My question for you is, “What’s one thing you can set down this week?”

Just do something that makes you feel the opposite of how you felt before you let go.

 Carl Richards – NY Times